Teenage Crushed: The Death Of Denial

You can live in denial all you want, avoiding mirrors and old classmates on the school run with their own kids in tow who are almost as tall as you are now. You can ignore the fact that you now get out of breath going up the stairs, that your face turns crimson whenever you bend to tie your shoelace. That when you pull back the blinds on a winter’s day and see the snow, your first thought is ‘that cold is going to get into my bones’.

You can convince yourself that you haven’t changed since your late teens, that you still feel exactly the same, and in actual fact those carefree times of childhood and school days were not that long ago.

But then this imaginary, self-constructed world gets shattered when something comes along and smashes a thigh length silver boot right through your constructed facade.

That something for me goes by the name of Agnetha Fältskog.


When I was young , way too young to understand what was cool, music in the seventies consisted of whatever existed in my Mum and Dad’s cassette and record collection.

Cassette and record. I may as well be talking about the gramophone now.

In those half-glimpsed scenes from back then I can recall listening to Brotherhood of Man, The Seekers, Bay City Rollers, Gilbert O’Sullivan, and Abba, as my brother and I played drums on an upturned bin or biscuit tin.

(Constant Friend tuts, carries on listening to Slade).

At that age, five or six, the corny lyrics written by the two men were just catchy and appealing, and it was the energy and the perfectly complimentary voices of the women that I liked. Then, as I got older, it was one of the women in particular that I liked, the quintessential Nordic blond, Agnetha.

I hate the word crush, it sounds all puppy dog and juvenile, but I was young, and definitely juvenile. And forming a crush is all part of growing up, although I think the kids these days are starting earlier. I have a daughter who at six years of age tells me constantly how fit Olly Murs is.

(Constant Friend shakes his head, Space Dust crackling on his tongue).

These moments are fixed and immortalised in my mind, my young mind, in my denial untouched by the passage of time. But then, suddenly, out of nowhere, it all comes crashing down. Agnetha steps back into the public eye, breaking her self-imposed exile from the limelight, to promote a new album. And, almost as an aside, it is mentioned that the blond, fresh-faced, forever fixed around 1978 beauty is now 63.

That stopped me dead in my excitable tracks.


The same age as my Mother-In-Law.

Reality washed over me cold. Walls came tumbling down.

Admittedly, she still looks good for her age. But there is no getting away from the fact that my original pin-up girl is now a pensioner. Well, she would have been my pin-up if my Dad would have trusted me with tacks.

Agnetha 2

I am sure that there is an element of air brushing going on here, but still, the rate that the two of us are aging I reckon I will soon be overtaking her and could pass as her Dad. Or at least her elder brother.

(Constant Friend agrees, continues to shuffle his Star Wars bubblegum card collection).

Now my bubble of immortality was well and truly punctured, I began to cast my mind back three decades or so. Who else did I used to like back then?

Erin. Erin Gray from the great Buck Rogers in the Twenty Fifth Century .Full of foreboding, I fearfully began to Google from the suddenly shaky ground of the twenty-first century.


That’s no good, get rid of the silly hat.

Erin 2

That’s the one. Now, what does Wikipedia say? On the plus side, she is still with us.




The same age as Agnetha.

The same age as my Mother-In-Law.

You hear that, Twiki? Colonel Wilma Deering is now a pensioner too.


And no, before you ask, Twiki never did it for me.

(Constant Friend stops eating his Kop Kops, raises a quizzical eyebrow).

Listening to Agnetha’s new album I was touched-this woman who had been written off as some kind of reclusive and eccentric Garbo, said to have turned her back on music, refusing to leave Sweden because of her paralysing fear of flying, was now in my country promoting her new material. She was singing about being back on our radios again. And she still has that beautiful voice, capable of evoking so well a feeling of fragility and vulnerability.

(“Wuss”, says Constant Friend, lay on his bed, hands splayed behind his head, gazing up at his Wonder Woman poster).

If I just close my eyes and listen, nothing has changed.She still has the moves. I have yet to shave.

In a bid to perpetuate the myth of youth, both for her and for myself, and forever anchor myself to a time long gone, I post this video now of how I remember her then. She, the Girl With The Golden Hair, and I, the Boy With The Full Head Of Hair.

The world was bright, and colourful, and young.

Trousers were wider.

(Constant Friend glances over at the video, nods his understanding).

20 thoughts on “Teenage Crushed: The Death Of Denial

  1. Great post. It is weird that celebrities we idolized are now in their sixties. Look at Sting and Bono!!!! (Actually, I’m not sure how old either is.) Time marches on. I can live in denial, but looking at my nieces and nephews always strips away the illusion. My nephew is now six feet tall. Sigh.


    • Okay, if-when- things fall right for us, the four of us will have to double date and go out on a foursome. Will meet you in Manchester, but think we’ll have to get a move on.


  2. Ha ha, nice post. It’s a truism, I think, that the camera, such a friend when you are young and famous, comes back and smashes you in the face later on. My own “crush” was Jane Fonda, who may be better looking now than then!


  3. Reblogged this on City Jackdaw and commented:

    I reblog this in honour of Agnetha Faltskog, who broke her twenty five year absence from performing live by duetting with Gary Barlow at the Children In Need Rocks concert. You go girl!! Erm, sorry, mature lady!!!


    • The likes of Marilyn Monroe and James Dean remain forever young, never having to portray to us the ravages of time. And yet our other idols are a cruel, and reminding, mirror.


      • Well let’s see, this is surely going to come back and haunt me. (And reveal my approximate age)

        There’s all the Backstreet Boys. I believe half of them have come out as gay and/or ex/current drugaddicts. Wonder how many will be alive 30 years from now.
        Then we have Tom Cruise – in his young Top Gun days – and he’s already a freak. And getting of age. Shivering.
        I did in fact have a crush on Benny in ABBA. I thought he looked gorgeous when I saw him in the music videos from the late 70s. But he’s, just as Agnetha, the age of my father. And that’s just pure horrid.

        Okay, that’s all for Monday’s confessional.

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      • Benny:if they had been born a few years later, or us a few years earlier, we could have double dated! 🙂
        Blimey Backstreet Boys take me back. And how they have turned out, along with Tom Cruise, I am beginning to entertain the idea of the Rosebud Curse 🙂
        Before I tell you my story, are you familiar with the English soap Coronation Street?


  4. You and me both, Andy : ). All these hard eyed and dead eyed celebs nowadays. Back in the 70s, as well as being gorgeous, women like Agnetha and Debbie Harry had great personalities – fun, kind, and down to earth. Agnetha had a great arse and a lovely smile. I’d say half the world had a crush on her. As a small boy, I’d hear Abba on the radio and I’d imagine, in some parallel universe, that I was grown up and she was my girlfriend, and how cool that would be ; ) Great days

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